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A: Your son
most probably saw you making love but he obviously felt comfortable
enough to fall right back asleep. Most of us have had the experience
of waking our children (who have fallen asleep in front of the
TV or in our beds) and getting them back to their rooms, speaking
with them, giving them a kiss goodnight-- and the next morning
the kids don't remember a thing.
The issue here is not so much what
he saw but how he understood it. He needs to be asked: What woke
him up and why did he come into your room? What did he see? How
did he feel about it? On the basis of what he says, you can respond
in kind.
He needs to know that grown-ups who
love one another express their feelings in different ways, including
physical affection, like when mom and dad kiss or hug during the
day. When parents are alone in their room, being naked and touching
each other is another way of showing love. "You too will do
that when you're a grown-up." To prevent this in the future,
the door to your bedroom should be shut and locked when you're making
love.
The children should also be taught
to respect your privacy and not bother you when the door to the
bedroom is closed.
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