Q: We have a six-year-old boy, a three-year-old girl, and are expecting another child soon. We want to start a more formalized program of doing chores and providing allowances, although we do not want to link the receipt of money with the chores, unless it is an extraordinary chore like helping rake leaves, shoveling the walks, etc. Do you have any advice, or can you point me in the direction of some guidelines on how many chores are appropriate at this age, what rate of completion should be expected, and sanctions that would follow non-completion or unsatisfactory completion?

What would be a good starting amount for an allowance? We want to have our three-year-old also do some things, but only in proportion to her age and ability.

A: Your six-year-old is ready for some chores and a beginning allowance, but the three-year-old will not be ready for an allowance until she has a concept of money, perhaps at age five or six. Allowances should not be tied to routine household chores. Your children should simply understand that everyone is expected to help around home. Your daughter can help set and clear the table, assist in picking up toys, put her laundry in the hamper and help you make her bed. Your son can do the same chores with more quality and independence expected of him. He may also help to weed the garden and collect trash around the house when reminded.

Allowances can be for other than ordinary chores and for teaching your children about money. As to the amount given, your son needs very little for spending, but you may want to include some for him to save for college and some to give to charity.

Dr. Sylvia Rimm, Phd

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