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Q: I am the
mother of three girls, ages seven, five and a half, and three.
My problem lies with my oldest daughter. She cares about no one
but herself. If one of her sisters is hurt physically or sad because
of something, she offers no compassion towards her. There are
situations where they are with other people, and the others have
made comments about her lack of compassion.
It is said that children learn by example, and
I am not a perfect mother, but I am a very caring person and go
beyond the call of duty whenever anyone I care about needs anything.
It is even more disturbing to see my daughter be so cold and unaffected
by anyone beside herself.
My daughter also gives no respect to her grandparents,
aunts or uncles. I constantly prompt her to say "Hello,"
"Good-bye," "Thank you," or to make eye contact.
She is not a shy person. I believe it is just a power struggle.
If she is preoccupied, she wants nothing to do with anyone. I
seem to have to threaten her with punishments to get her to do
these things. If I can't even get her to use basic respect with
family members, you can imagine how it is with others. If adults
say "Hello" to her, she says nothing. I am just appalled
at this.
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