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A:
You can help your son despite his high energy and your lack of
understanding. Start by enrolling in a parenting class in your
area specifically for single parents. If you can't find one, check
with your local principal. Try to find several other parents who
are interested in the class as well. It will provide a fun night
out and a support group for your concerns.
Some special tips for you to follow:
- Try to be consistent; follow through when you set limits.
- Plan each day with alternating play and quiet activities
for your son.
- Get occasional help with childcare so you can take a little
time away to be in adult company.
- Don't tell your son you feel inadequate; pretend you're in
charge even when you feel you're not in control.
- Think of some nice things about your son and tell him about
them each day.
- As your son gets older, be sure he has some contact with
caring adult males. Teachers, coaches, and scout and church
leaders may be helpful.
It is more difficult for a single parent
to bring up children, but many children who have grown up under
those circumstances become successful and well adjusted despite
the absence of a dad. Be sure you find a support group, and, of
course, believe in yourself and your son.
Dr. Sylvia Rimm, Phd
Copyright © 2000,
Creators Syndicate, Inc.
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