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A:
You've described your son as mature, but he is also naive. Explain
to him that he only hears about a small percentage of winners,
especially in the area of music. So few talented musicians are
successful that they often appear to young people to have arrived
at their enormous success by chance.
The others who have not prepared themselves
for alternative careers are fortunate to get part-time jobs at
low pay, playing their music in lounges or restaurants. Although
the diners enjoy the talented performances, the performers often
feel disappointed because they have not fulfilled the promise
that their talent predicted.
If composing is your son's goal, you may
wish to help him understand the steps he must take to achieve
his goal. Of course, you should encourage him. Visiting the music
department of a fine university may provide your son with information
about the step-by-step pathway to musical composition. The students
may help by sharing the importance of good grades and self-discipline.
Although your son may find their description
discouraging, it may be a good lesson in reality. He'll accept
that better from a professional than from his parents. Although
no one wants to discourage your son's musical achievements, it
would be better to replace his magical thinking with a dose of
reality. Talent development takes discipline and is not always
fun!
Dr. Sylvia Rimm, Phd
Copyright © 2000,
Creators Syndicate, Inc.
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