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A:
Children who are diagnosed with oppositional defiant disorder
(ODD) are typically more extreme than spirited children. They
hardly agree with anyone, argue frequently, and seem to oppose
almost any idea presented by parents, teachers, or friends. I
refer to them as dominant children who seem happy only when they
are in control. They can indeed be difficult, and their behavior
may stem from a combination of temperament and overempowerment.
It's most important that you and your
son's teachers stay united so that he doesn't gain further power
by manipulating adults. It's also important to pick your battles
and be firm on those. My book, How
to Parent So Children Will Learn (1996, Crown Publishing),
includes an anti-arguing routine that will help you to take charge
and still permit your son to feel listened to and cared about.
Although my book will be helpful, if your child has a diagnosis
of ODD, I would suggest you get psychological help for guiding
him as well.
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Dr. Sylvia Rimm, Phd
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