Terrific Teen

Q: I enjoy listening to your broadcast on public radio. My 16-year-old daughter, who excels in academics, is currently a high school junior and a freshman at the local university. I found that enrolling her in the Post-Secondary Enrollment Option Program has kept her happier in her academics. She wants to become a pediatric oncologist/hematologist. In pursuing her goal, she wants to volunteer as a tutor/buddy for children with life-threatening diseases, such as leukemia. Her plan is to tutor/buddy children while they are in the hospital going through their treatment.

Her problem is her age. When we contacted those in charge of the program, they initially said she could volunteer on that floor at the age of 16. When she turned the proper age, there seemed to have been a change in the rules. They do not feel that the patients would want to see my daughter, healthy and with hair. They also said it would be too traumatic for her to see. She disagrees, as do I. Not all 16-year-olds have the same maturity levels. She realizes that there are teachers on staff for the children, but she thinks the young patients would enjoy her smiling face.

She is currently a volunteer at a health center. She started as a "reader" to young children who are awaiting treatment in the ER or the pediatric ER. My daughter enjoys this very much. She dresses in scrubs and dresses all the "little patients to be" in scrubs. She assists in showing the children all the things they may see and touch while in for surgery. She helps explain to the children and their parents the items that look scary.

Do you think that she should be given the opportunity to interview and be an exception to the age rule?

 

  
 

A: It is truly wonderful that your 16-year-old daughter is so committed to helping others. Pediatric oncology is a difficult place for patients and health professionals alike and while your daughter may be able to handle it, she might do better with maturity. She has set herself some high goals, but it's fair to respect those who are in charge of this challenging program. Although it's reasonable to ask for the opportunity for an interview, it's also logical to accept the judgment of those who have daily experience.

Your daughter's present activities are wonderful for helping her to prepare for a career in medicine. As she gets further along in her medical preparation, she'll have opportunities to rotate through many departments and that will be sufficient time for her to determine a more specific career direction.

She sounds like a terrific teen with wonderful goals. She has selected a very challenging path. Be assured she will require your continuing encouragement.

Dr. Sylvia Rimm, Phd

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Dr. Sylvia B. Rimm is a child psychologist, a clinical professor at Case Western Reserve University School of Medicine and the author of many books on parenting. She appears weekly on her own radio show, Family Talk With Sylvia Rimm, and appears monthly on the NBC Today Show.
 
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