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A:
Underachievers are often highly competitive kids who don't cope
very well with losing and they feel like they're losers in schoolwork.
It becomes easy for them to function in areas where they are winners,
like sports or social life and avoid those areas where it's risky
to work hard.
Suppose your son works hard in school and
doesn't get A's; it's easier for him to say, "I'm just average,"
and avoid work because he will risk finding out that even after
he works hard, he may not be as smart as he had hoped. He no longer
has intellectual confidence in himself. Obviously, he also has
some bad habits.
It is possible your son has an attention
deficit disorder or a learning disability, but a school or private
psychologist should evaluate those potential problems. At this
level, it's important for your son to realize his grades will
count for college, and that he may be closing doors for himself
for the rest of his life.
Dr. Sylvia Rimm, Phd
Copyright © 2000,
Creators Syndicate, Inc.
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