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Q: I am going
out of my mind! My two-and-a-half-year-old daughter is just not
sleeping through the night. I have a feeling that my husband and
I have created the situation. In the past, when our daughter was
getting up at night as an infant, I would go in and hold her.
Being a first-time mom, I felt important and needed. Since she
turned two, she has been getting up during the night crying for
one of us. Sometimes she will let my husband in her room, but
lately she only wants me. I am exhausted.
My daughter has told me she wakes up because
she is scared. We were redecorating her room with flowers, and
I told her the flowers would keep her safe. The first night after
I painted the flowers on the wall, she slept all night, but that
was it! She gets up crying and wants me to lie down with her.
I did not see a problem in this, but it's several times a night,
and a lot of the time she doesn't go back to sleep easily. I've
tried just redirecting her into bed and leaving the room, but
she screams and cries something awful. I feel very guilty doing
that.
My husband just gets angry and yells, which
I know is not helping, and this doesn't make her go back to sleep
any easier. In a nutshell, by going to her and lying with her,
I've created a monster! I've tried consoling her, getting her
back to bed, and being stern. None of these approaches are working.
I'm also tired of fighting with my spouse over this.
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