I never thought I would be a wife who didn't know what her husband was doing. But my husband Alan (we've been married for 11 years) hardly talks to me. Lots of times I only know what's up with him because I hear him talking on the phone to somebody else -- or a friend of his mentions to me something that Alan is doing.

I can't believe I'm in this situation because part of what drew me to Alan was how much I liked to talk to him. Now he hardly says a word to me. He comes home late, watches TV and on the weekends he's busy watching sports or playing tennis.

I want him to tell me how he's feeling. When I ask him, he gets this dull look in his eyes. He mumbles something, but he doesn't open up to me. He doesn't even tell me trivial details.

How can I get him to speak to me? And listen to me? To take an interest in who I am and what I think and feel? To open up to me?