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Your Voice
- He had an affair and even though
I forgave he still could not get over the guilt.
- I wanted to go away on a vacation
for Christmas and he wanted to go to his parents for five days,
They have never really accepted me, and I gave in to him but
was very unhappy there and on the third night we had a major
blow-out. I stormed out of the house and when I came back, late,
he was sorry but the only thing we’ve solved is that he’s
agreed never to go back there for so long. We still haven’t
solved the problem that he’s a momma’s boy and I’ll
never be good enough for her and he doesn’t know how to
tell her to lay off of me.
- I can’t stand the way he
goes out with the guys one night a week and they’re not
as moral as he is and I don’t know what they’re doing.
I got real mad once and he stayed home for a few weeks and we’d
go somewhere instead, but he still goes out with them sometimes.
- Our worst fight was over him coming
home at 5:00 a.m. with what looked like a hickey on his neck.
He called me some foul names, punched me, so I called the cops.
I don't think we have resolved it because it still comes up
in arguments all these years later. I still don't trust him,
and he claims that I am the one who broke his trust by calling
for help.
- I thought I was starting a new
job and even though we were low on funds I spent a lot of money
on new clothes and then the job didn’t come through and
now my wife, who is supporting us for now, is upset because
we have lots of bills that she is paying. She doesn’t understand
that it’s hard for me to take just any job that I feel
does not fulfill what I really want to do. We didn’t work
it out yet but I promised her that once I do find a job I want
I’ll make it up to her. I don’t know if she believes
me.
- I wanted to go back to school
to get my degree, like I had helped support him while he was
getting his M.A., and he said he’d rather I be home with
the kids. I started going back part time in the evenings but
it’s not really "worked out" because I’d
like to be studying more full time.
- I hate the way he gets violent
with the kids sometimes, thinking that disciplining by slapping
or spanking them is the way to go. He grew up in a home like
that and he’s come a long way but he still does it sometimes
and I hate it. It’s ruining our relationship.
- Once she spent too much money
on stuff for herself and I was working really hard and I felt
she was taking advantage of me. She tried to be nice afterwards
and make special meals, etc., so it’s getting a little
better, but she still doesn’t understand that we have to
save and put something away for unexpected circumstances.
- Once she got drunk at a party
and started to come on to one of the men there, a neighbor of
ours, and we had a terrible fight after I took her home. She
was very ashamed but I think that one does things when he’s
drunk that show what’s really going on inside of him, that
he just doesn’t know about. Anyway, now, whenever I see
that neighbor, he smirks at me and makes snide remarks. We haven’t
worked it out yet.
- Once we had a terrible fight about
the way he doesn’t open up and show me his emotions. We
are slowly working it out by him talking a little more every
night before we go to sleep.
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LIFE, LOVE & MARRIAGE
Tell us about the worst fight
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