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WOODY ALAN SYNDROME:
THE OVERFUNCTIONING WIFE AND THE UNDERFUNCTIONING HUSBAND

By Sherri Lederman Mandell

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Mona: You said that you would be home tomorrow afternoon.

Phil: They changed the time of the presentation.

Mona: Don't you have anything to say about it? You were supposed to take care of the kids.

Phil: Call a babysitter.

Mona: Phil, all of the babysitters are asleep now. It's midnight. Why didn't you tell me earlier?

Phil: I forgot..

Mona: How can you be so inconsiderate? I'm supposed to be meeting with Ken about the account with the Marriott. I've been working on this for three months.

Phil: How about calling Mrs. Cronin?

Mona: Woody Alan syndrome.

Phil: What are you talking about?

Mona: You're suffering from it. When they asked him the name of his pediatrician and his kids' after-school activities, he didn't know. That's why they gave the kid to Mia.

Phil: Come on.

Mona: Mrs. Cronin hasn't been here in two months. Where have you been?

Phil: You never told me.

Mona: I told you. I told you she was in the hospital.

Phil: I don't remember.

Mona: You don't listen to me.

Phil: Well, you talk to me when I'm in the middle of doing other things.

Mona: That's what you do -- get on the computer or watch TV and disappear.

Phil: Stop shrieking. You're gonna wake up the kids.

Mona: I'm tired of keeping things together. I have no sitter and I have a big meeting and you let me down.

Phil: I'm sorry.

Mona: I don't understand why I have to be on call all the time. The kid is sick. Mom takes over. The washing machine needs to be fixed -- Mom needs to stay home. You have to shoulder some of this.

Phil: Mona, your job is part time. I'm the one who brings home the real money.

Mona: Just because you make more money doesn't mean my job isn't serious.

Phil: Fine I'll miss the conference and the chance for a $40,000 account so you can meet with Ken about what color plants they're going to have in the lobby. Come on, Mona. Get real.

Mona: Can't you at least be responsible? Can't you tell me beforehand? Can't you take equal partnership here?

Phil: Equal partnership. You stayed home and went to your aerobics classes while I put in all this time building a business.

Mona: I took care of little kids.

Phil: You had it easy. You find a way to cope with this. Call somebody in the morning.

Mona: Why don't you? You're the one who messed up.

Phil: I'm not calling some teenage girl at 7:30 in the morning. Give it a rest, Mona. Get off of my back.

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