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INTRODUCTION
BY Dr.
Michael Tobin
One of the greatest challenges
facing a couple in a committed relationship is how to keep
passion and romance alive. Kids, jobs, the house and the various
pressures of life tend to wear down a marriage. The result
is a conflict situation like the one confronting Steve (44)
and Elizabeth (41).
Married for 15 years, the couple's
sexual relationship has gradually deteriorated over the years.
Sex is now occasional, unsatisfactory and initiated by Steve.
In this encounter Steve again initiates and this time, rather
than withdrawing in cold silence, he and Elizabeth begin to
express the anger and hurt each feels.
He wants sexual contact; she
wants intimacy and romance. Both are stuck in their respective
corners. Neither of them understands the other's needs nor
do they respect their differences. If this couple is going
to recreate love and passion in their marriage, they first
must learn how to hear one another. Sex is physical communication
and knowing how to listen is what transforms the sexual act
into a profound experience of connection.
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