Saturday, 01 January 2000

Balancing Motherhood, Work and School-Work

Written by  Esther Boylan Wolfson

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QDear WholeFamily Counselor,

I am a 27 year old mother, worker and full-time student. I have a little girl who is three. My question is: How do you balance all of these things without one area lacking? (Especially my daughter and school work?) Any advice will be greatly appreciated.

ALife for a working mother is a constant balance. Throw in school-work and you now have three full-time jobs. Can you play all these roles without making sacrifices? No. What you can realize, is that you should not be expected to. Be realistic about your goals. Do not expect to be able to spend the same amount of time with your child as someone who does not work out of the home. Instead, concentrate on making the most out of the time you have. Young children need to know what to expect each day. In today's world, for good or for bad, most children can not expect to have Mommy all to themselves each day. Try to organize your schedule so that your daughter knows when you will be home and what special time you will have for her each day. A half an hour a day of quality time can make all the difference. If you have more time - great. If not, know you are doing your best.

The same attitude can be applied to school-work. You may not be able to put in as much study time as someone with less obligations. Of course, you are in school to succeed, but just do your best and don't expect to be first in the class.

The key is not to try and do everything perfectly. That is impossible. Instead, do your best and try to remember that your life is richer and more rewarding because of all the various roles you play.

Best Wishes and let me know if I can help with anything else.

Esther Boylan Wolfson
Director, Early Childhood Development Center

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Esther Boylan Wolfson

Esther Boylan Wolfson

Esther Wolfson , director of our Early Childhood Development Center is an Early Childhood Specialist, who received her BA in English Communications from Stern College for Women, Yeshiva University and an MA in Early Childhood Special Education from Teachers College, Columbia University, both in New York City. Esther worked as a pre-school special education teacher for seven years. Three of those years were spent working in a school for language delayed pre-schoolers, which is her area of specialty. Another special love of hers is cooking with young children. One of her most enjoyable projects was developing a program for cooking with pre-school children for three special education programs. Esther and her husband Myles have three boys aged eight, five and two-years-old. While her three lively boys and her work at WholeFamily, keep her quite busy, in her spare time (if she ever has any!) she is an avid reader who also enjoys creative writing, exercising and swimming.

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