Sexuality

First Time: A Drama

By Sherri Lederman Mandell,
Senior Staff Writer

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Samantha (14) and Luis (15) are sitting under the bleachers in the high school field on Friday night. Samantha is trying to convince Luis to go all the way.

Samantha: I wanna do it. I wanna see what it feels like.

The Joy of Holding Hands

If I was a late bloomer, I was also slow. I know that some of the kids around me - I was 17 at the time - were sleeping with their boyfriends. But for me - and for my boyfriend, Jeff, too - it wasn't an issue.

But holding hands with Jeff was dynamite - electric, thrilling, warm, exciting.

Luis: I think what we're doing now is enough. Kissing. Let's wait.

Samantha: C'mon. We love each other.

Luis: Yeah, we love each other but I don't want trouble.

Samantha: There won't be trouble.

Luis: That's what you say. But you could get pregnant.

Samantha: I'm not gonna get pregnant.

She takes out something from her pocket.

Samantha: That's why I brought this with me.

Holds up a condom.

Luis: Hey, no Samantha. That's not for me. I don't want to do it with that. Especially not the first time.

Samantha: What are you so afraid of?

She rubs his arms and kisses him.

Samantha: C'mon, I love you. Danielle told me that she's doing it with Frank. It's not wrong. We'll stay together.

Luis: I don't want to take any chances. I don't know why we can't just leave things the way they are.

Food for Thought Before You Go There

OK. So there you are. In a relationship. Maybe you are in love. You are definitely high on hormones, in a constant state of arousal. You feel the adrenaline pumping, your throat is dry. You don't need to eat or sleep. All you need is LUV, right?

Samantha: This is how we can show each other how much we love each other. Forever.

Luis: Forever is a long time. I'm not ready for forever.

Samantha: Forget it. You don't love me.

Luis: I do. But I feel like it should mean something. Something serious.

Samantha: Get a grip. It's sex. Everybody is doing it. You could die tomorrow and you never would have done it. Now is the time.

Luis: Maybe, you're right.

She kisses him.

Samantha: Just relax. Everything's going to be all right.

Luis: I just hope you don't get pregnant.

Samantha: Don't worry.

She starts to unbutton his shirt.

Luis: I can't do it. I just can't. It's not right.

Samantha: Why not?

When is it OK to Start Having Sex?

Luis: I don't want to deal with AIDS.

Samantha: How would you get AIDS from me? You don't trust me. I don't think you really love me.

Luis: I do.

Samantha: You only care about protecting yourself. Well I'm here for you. And I want you. And I want to be with your forever and you're telling me no. What am I supposed to do? Wait until you're ready? You could have another girlfriend by then. I don't want to wait.

Luis: It's not that.

Samantha: Well then what is it?

Luis: I don't know. I love you.

Samantha: If you did, you would make love with me. Not give me a bunch of excuses.

She stands up and starts walking home.

Samantha: Go and find some nun. I want a guy who is ready for me. All of me.

Luis follows her.

Samantha: Get away. I can walk myself home.

 

 

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