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Imagine a place where babies don't
cry and children never fight.
Jean Liedloff found such a place. She
spent a total of two-and-a-half years living with the Yequana
Indians in the Venezuelan jungles. She describes them as an
isolated Stone Age tribe, yet, on every measure of well being
that she could think of, Liedloff found the Yequana to be
better off than Westerners.
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| After babyhood, Yequana
parents and other adults don't initiate contact or activity
with their children but are readily available when the
children need them. |
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Their daily lives were spent in what
she calls a party atmosphere, with a lot of laughing and joking.
Their relationships were non-judgmental and respectful, and
she never witnessed any arguing, fighting or sibling rivalry.
In her book The
Continuum Concept - Allowing Human Nature to Work Successfully,
(Addison Wesley, 1977) Liedloff claims that even the children
never fight.
Competition of any sort, even in games,
is unknown. Joy, rather than the unhappiness often found in
Western culture, prevails.
WHERE BABIES DON'T CRY
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| Liedloff attributes
the joy, serenity and peace of the Yequana to the fact
that babies, from the moment of birth until crawling age,
are constantly carried. |
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Perhaps the most stunning of her findings
is that Yequana babies rarely cry. They are relaxed and quiet
and, if we are to believe Liedloff, they never spit up! Boys
are given small bows and arrows from the age of 18 months,
but are not warned to be careful. The adults, Liedloff says,
have complete faith in their children's instincts for self-preservation
and don't warn them about rushing rivers, scorpions, snakes
and other dangers of the jungle. A mother walking on a jungle
path with a toddler following her will not turn around to
make sure he is near. She just expects and assumes he will
be, and, according to Liedloff, he always is. In the time
she spent with the Yequana, Liedloff says she saw only one
accident.
After babyhood, Yequana parents
and other adults don't initiate contact or activity with their
children but are readily available when the children need
them. Children spend most of their time with their peers
and adults spend most of their time with their peers.
Liedloff attributes the joy, serenity
and peace of the Yequana to the fact that babies, from the
moment of birth until crawling age, are constantly carried.
The mother, other adult or older sibling, will carry a baby
- either in their arms or in a sling -- at all times while
they are working, cooking, dancing, bathing or walking. Babies
sleep with their parents.
Liedloff believes that this "in-arms"
phase is as old as evolution itself and that humans and our
evolutionary antecedents treated babies this way for millions
of years. It is only in the past few thousand years -- a tiny
dot on the evolutionary map -- that we have strayed from this
practice with, Liedloff claims, dire consequences.
HELD CLOSE BUT NOT AT THE CENTER
Liedloff and the Yequana Indians believe
that a baby's rightful, natural place is in the arms of his
mother or other caretaker. This constant closeness to the
mother's body gives the baby a feeling of security, wholeness
and being "right" and influences his whole life as well as
that of his society. Westerners who miss this phase never
lose their sense of not being "right," their longing for something
they can't quite name.
While they are constantly with the
mother or other caretaker, Yequana babies are not the center
of attention. Instead, they live on the periphery, present
at all activities but not at their center. From their safe
and protected vantage point, they learn about life and get
all the stimulation they need. Infants' signals are immediately
responded to and they are put down only when they signal that
they want to be, when they are ready to crawl.
Liedloff believes that the Yequana's
joyful life is due to the fact that they are still in touch
with their "continuum" -- the built-in instinctive knowledge
with which we are all born -- of the way human beings are
supposed to live. She attributes Western ills, from alienation
to drug addiction, crime and violence, to the fact that we
have been cut off from our natural continuum.
A HELD BABY IS A CALM BABY
"It is understandable," she writes
"that Western babies are not welcome in offices, shops, workrooms,
or even dinner parties. They usually shriek and kick, wave
their arms and stiffen their bodies, so that one needs two
hands and a lot of attention to keep them under control. It
seems that they are keyed up with undischarged energy from
spending so much time out of contact with an active person's
naturally discharging energy field. We need to recognize that
treating babies the way we did for hundreds of thousands of
years, can assured calm, soft, undemanding little creatures.
Only then can working mothers, unwilling to be bored and isolated
all day with no adult companionship, rid themselves of their
cruel conflict.
"Babies taken to work are where they
need to be -- with their mothers. And the mothers are where
they need to be -- with their peers, not doing baby care but
something worthy of intelligent adults," Liedloff writes.
The
Continuum Concept was re-issued with a new introduction
in 1985 as part of Addison Wesley's Classics in Child Development
series. In it, John Holt, the noted writer and educator, wrote,
"If the world could be saved by a book, this just might be
the book."
While Liedloff seems fairly subjective
in her descriptions of both the Yequana and Western baby care
practices, she offers fascinating insights that could go a
long way in improving our babies' - and our own - lives.
© Ruth Mason, 2000
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