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Dear
Victimized Mom: Your son's therapist is giving your son good advice.
Negative messages about the other parent not only cause children
to feel torn between parents but typically backfire on both parents.
Feel free to explain your husband's accusations about you, and
try to keep interesting and good things happening between you
and your son. If you have some brothers around who can impress
upon your son what a good person you are, that may help. The counselor
may also help your son to see your value.
If your former husband will see a counselor
about parenting, he's likely to be advised not to denigrate
you, so it would make sense to encourage him to find a good
counselor. If any counselor sees both of you together, that
counselor is likely to help you give appropriate, consistent
messages to your son. Even one or two meetings together can
make an important, positive difference for your son's future
adjustment.
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1999, Creators Syndicate, Inc.
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