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a letter, or even a short note, to yourself can be a very powerful
experience. It can bring you comfort, encouragement and strength,
like having a conversation with a friend who knows you intimately,
loves you unconditionally and sincerely wants to help you improve
what needs improving, overcome difficulties and feel okay about
yourself.
Even if you confront yourself, the process
can be healing because it allows you to encounter your doubts
or challenges in a supportive, non-critical way.
We will help you learn how to write
letters to yourself that congratulate, encourage, comfort,
validate or simply remind you that you are worthy of love
and are to be valued.
Sample Letters to Myself
1. Sample I - Working on a Relationship
Dear ________,
Things have been tough for you lately.
You've been feeling kind of lonely and down, like nobody understands
you, appreciates you or cares. Or maybe somebody does, but
not ___________ (a family member, friend, or colleague), who
means so much to you.
It's okay that you're feeling what you
are; go ahead and allow yourself to feel it. If it's something
that you can't talk about with her/him, write about it. Once
you've written it out, put it away and move on in your relationship.
If it's something that you think you
can and should talk about, think about what would be the best
way to communicate with her/him and find the right time and
place to do it.
Remember that you are a person with your
own special talents and character traits. You have a lot to
offer the world. Your worth is not measured by the attitude
or opinion of ____________.
Be aware of your worth, your gifts and
your strengths. Even if s/he doesn't realize it, others do.
Most important, you do.
Be well and find happiness in all the
good things that surround you,
____________ (Signature)
2. Sample II - Short and Sweet Reminders
to Hang in There
(These are examples of short notes you can stick
on your mirror, in your briefcase or your backpack, or to
send to yourself at school, work or home, for a variety of
situations.)
Dear ________,
You're great/cool/a terrific person.
I know that you are doing the best you can. Keep a good sense
of humor at all times. It can save your day :)
And while we're at it, kudos for keeping
away from the cigarettes/alcohol/sugar/etc. Take it one day
at a time.
Alternate example: Okay, you missed that
deadline. Admit it, move on and you'll get it right the next
time!
Alternate example: Yes! You sailed through
that confrontation with your mother-in-law/boss/ex-husband/etc.
with flying colors!
Love J,
___________ (Signature)
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Use
at least several of the following principles in your
letter to yourself:
Validate yourself.Accept
responsibility if you did something wrong.Ask yourself
for forgiveness.Move on with a smile.
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