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Chris, you're facing a real tough
choice and I suggest you find someone who is understanding
and wise; someone who can be both patient and helpful.
You're dealing with heavy-duty stuff
and you need to talk. And soon!!
If there's a chance that your
parents can be that "someone", then talk to them.
Your parents may very well be the people who care most about
you in this world. And they don't only care about your life
today but also about your future. A lot of parents today are
much more aware and understanding of the pressures that kids
go through. Remember, it wasn't that long ago that we parents
were kids and were faced with the same challenges that you
are.
If you'd rather not discuss
the topic of sex with your folks, then find someone else.
Anyone whom you respect - a neighbor or aunt or teacher or
guidance counselor or grandparent or psychologist.......
"Why?" you ask. Here
are some of the things you need to discuss and think about:
-
Does Rick really love me? Would
any boy who loved me pressure me so much?
- What do love and sex mean
at my age?
- How will having sex affect
things like my relationship with my parents, siblings, friends,
my reputation, and the way I feel about myself?
- What if I get pregnant? Condoms
aren't 100% safe! Even if there's only a slight chance,
do I want to take it??
- And what happens with school,
my reputation, my health, my chances of getting pregnant
in the future, abortions, etc., if I get pregnant?
- What will all of this do
to my emotions and about how I'll feel about sex in the
future?
- What makes boys tick and
what kinds of boys do I like?
- How much of my desire to
have sex is really about the pressure I feel to be cool?
Sex is a heavy responsibility;
it's not just a feel-good sport.
Hollywood and magazines have put too much sex on everyone's
brain and as a result, they have cheapened it and also have
hurt a lot of people.
Don't be one of those people.
Talk!
And best of luck...
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